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Why O'Malley is wrong....

Published: Friday, January 13, 2012
Dr. Ruth M. Jacobs and Mike McManus: Why O'Malley is wrong on same-sex marriage Commentary

Dr. Ruth M. Jacobs and Mike McManus

Gov. Martin O'Malley, in promoting same-sex marriage, wants to change the long-established meaning of marriage by promoting an illusion that gender and even biological relationships don't really matter.

Yet the healthiest children are those reared by a married mother and father.
"Marriage is the union of a husband and wife for a reason: These are the only unions that can make new life and connect children in love to their mom and dad," says Maggie Gallagher, president of the National Organization for Marriage.

In his 1828 American Dictionary, Noah Webster defined marriage as the "act of uniting a man and a woman for life," because marriage "was instituted … for the purpose of preventing the promiscuous intercourse of the sexes, for promoting domestic felicity, and for securing the maintenance and education of children."

While children can lose their parents for many reasons, changing from Webster's timeless definition of marriage to same-sex marriage as pushed by Gov. O'Malley would mean that it is our state government that is dividing the family tree, breaking biological ties and depriving children of either dad or mom. states, "Fathers play a unique and irreplaceable role in their children's lives." Yet, the majority of same-sex partnerships raising children are lesbian. Enforcing same-sex lesbian marriage would officially make dad the "throwaway parent" and would give greater legal rights to an unrelated female.

Most studies of same-sex parenting involve children of divorced lesbian mothers who started out in a heterosexual household, thus providing little or no real information about parenting when dad is axed right out of family. The American Academy of Pediatrics reports, "There is a paucity of data on ... adolescents ... reared in lesbian households since birth."

We do know, that children from fatherless homes, according to federal statistics, are "14 times more likely to commit rape, 32 times more likely to run away, 20 times more likely to have behavioral disorders, five times more likely to commit suicide, ten times more likely to abuse chemical substances and 20 times more likely to end up in prison."

We also know that same-gender relationships lack the stability of traditional marriage. A study of homosexual men found that the "duration of steady partnerships" was 1.5 years. In a lesbian-parenting study, 60 percent of the mothers had separated before the child's 7th birthday. By contrast, 66 percent of all heterosexual first marriages last 10 years or longer, with 50 percent lasting 20 years or longer, reports the National Center for Health Statistics.

Gay activists want you to believe that homosexuality is innate, making genderless marriage a "civil right." Yet, studies of identical twins indicate that if one twin is homosexual, in the majority of cases the other is not. There is no "gay gene." Peter Tatchell, a British homosexual activist, states, "If heterosexuality and homosexuality are, indeed, genetically predetermined ... how do we explain bisexuality or people who, suddenly in midlife, switch from heterosexuality to homosexuality (or vice versa)? We can't." In fact, there are more 250 ex-gay groups (

After Maine 's legislature voted for same-sex marriage in 2009, Maine voters repealed the law. Subsequently, two dozen state legislators who voted for it were defeated in 2010.
Gov. O'Malley is wrong on same-sex marriage. Maryland legislators must vote "no" to same-sex marriage — or risk the fate of Maine legislators.

Dr. Ruth Jacobs of Gaithersburg is a physician. Michael J. McManus of Potomac is president of Marriage Savers.


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How Do You Explain a Lesbian Wedding to an 8 year old? 


A few weeks ago my wife and I finished sending out our Christmas newsletter and family picture.  The picture was taken last summer on a beautiful Martha's Vineyard beach.  Minutes after capturing this family moment a short distance from us a photographer began taking pictures of two women dressed in white gowns.  A same-sex wedding had just taken place.  Watching attentively to what was occurring on the beach my eight-year old granddaughter asked her mother why these two women were kissing one another. I was very interested in my daughter-in-law's reply.  She said, "Honey, these women love each other a lot. Their friendship and love are wonderful gifts from God.  However, God wants only a man and a woman to be married. Their marriage and outward affection are not His will.  God doesn't condone what they are doing."  I thought to myself, "Well said."   


I pastor a church on a resort island off the coast of Cape Cod.   Each summer I receive a couple of phone calls asking me if I would perform a same-sex wedding.  I respectfully decline.  I will never be comfortable being asked to marry two persons of the same gender.  I am even more uncomfortable having my grandchildren exposed to a lesbian wedding. The thought that my granddaughter will grow up with an image in her mind of two women amorously kissing and embracing on a sandy beach makes me angry.


In less than thirty years, homosexuality has evolved from being something that was understood to be sinful, to something that is being declared as the moral equivalent of heterosexuality.  In recent years I have been surprised and heartbroken with how many friends and contemporaries in ministry have capitulated to the "spirit of this age" and are now supporting homosexuality and same-sex marriage.  I wonder if they have given much thought to the impact the acceptance of homosexual expression has upon our nation's children.


For example, the growing acceptance of homosexuality and same-sex marriage will compound sexual confusion and experimentation by young people.   This week Archie Comics released the first-ever issue featuring a same-sex wedding.  Riverdale High will never be the same.  The clear message of same-sex marriage is that all sexual choices are equally acceptable and desirable.  A child who grows up in a home with traditional values will face a world where all sexual options are equal and encouraged.  They will be cheered on by their peers and the media to accept same-sex marriage, a choice they never would have considered before. 


And what about the chaos that is now pulsating through our public schools?  Schools today have non-discrimination policies that include "sexual orientation."   In states where same-sex marriage is legal gay activists are working hard to have administrations change the content of the curriculum.  As of January 1 California public schools must teach students about the specific contributions of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and

transgender Americans.  Children will be taught to see homosexuality, bisexuality, cross-dressing, sex-change operations, and homosexual marriages as good and natural, and a possible life-style choice for them.


In Massachusetts where I live, married homosexual teachers wear their wedding rings.  At school social functions the teacher will introduce his/her homosexual spouse to you.  Little Anna will learn in first grade that "Mrs." Smith is married to another "Mrs." Smith and when she grows up she has the right to choose the partner of her choice. It is wrong for a school child to criticize homosexuality.  Educators, in this state, work hard to protect their schools from "mean thinking" conservative people.   And what about sex education?  In some public schools students are taught that remaining abstinent until heterosexual or homosexual marriage is a good thing.  It is also communicated that since pregnancy is not a danger for homosexuals then sex can be a wonderful experience for young people, as long as they act "responsibly."    


It's impossible to assess the sexual confusion that boys and girls are experiencing growing up in today's culture.  Young girls are wondering if they are lesbians for no reason other than they find their pretty friends attractive.  Many children will carry their confusion into their adult years.  Generations will be severely damaged by the sexual chaos we see all around us.  Millions of people will be emotionally and sexually harmed by the eradication of biblical standards established by the Creator.  "For this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. (Gen. 2:24)." The accumulated wisdom and good sense of over 2,000 years has concluded that the best marital and parental blueprint is composed of one man and one woman. Arrogantly discounting such time-tested wisdom and using children as guinea pigs is devastating to our culture as well as individual lives.    




The OneByOne Speaker's Bureau is available to assist your church, small group, or bible study in discussing the biblical answer to this difficult question. Please email me at to discuss how we might assist you.




Rev. Jeff Winter


Pittsburgh General Assembly 2012 Luncheon 


OnebyOne Luncheon

Tuesday, July 3  12:00 - 1:30 pm


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"Same-Sex Marriage: The Destructive Impact on America's Youth"


Tonic Bar and Grill

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(one block from the main entrance of the Pittsburgh Convention Center)


Cost:  $15.00 


**Everyone is welcome at lunch. You do not need to be a registered attendee of GA. If you would like to attend our luncheon and are not a registered participant, please email or send a note to PO Box 440, Pittsford, NY 14534.



General Assembly 2012 


June 30 - July 7

David Lawrence Convention Center, Pittsburgh, PA




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Folks, how many agree with this statement:
Since the gov't sanctions the vows of marriage, it has an obligation to enforce them. Removing adultery laws from the books, whether by actual repeal or by non-enforcement  made a mockery of marriage as a legally protected union.