Monday, March 11, 2013

The Gift of Gender Difference

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Fourth of 7 Prayers for Marriage: The Gift of Gender Difference

by Andrew Comiskey

Andrew Comiskey
Gender DifferenceProperly defined, marriage hinges upon gender difference. A wedding counts only when the angular awkward guy in the tux kisses the woman in white, a vision of curves and hidden complexity. Once the two have crossed the threshold, there is no turning back. They are united irrevocably in the mystery of two becoming one.

Gender difference is at the center of such wholeness. Becoming a whole sexual gift to another depends on that difference. Theologian John Mark Miravelli says it best: a gift ceases to be a whole gift if in fact I already possess what the other is offering me. In other words, a same gender friend can only mirror back to me what I already have; (s)he offers me only a variation of what I possess. However blessed, same-gender gifts cannot approximate the offering of gender complements.

There may be good reasons why one attempts such unity with the same gender. Perhaps experiences with the opposite gender were unsatisfying, even abusive; it could be that a particular friendship generated heat and feelings of falling in love. None of that changes the truth: two of the same cannot a whole make. That is evident in the inability to reproduce life.

It is also evident in the failure of same-gender friends to balance each other out. Two grooms doom a 'marriage' from the start. The attempt at 'normal' is undermined by the absence of woman's civilizing instinct. She insists that sex answer to relationship, not just new sensual thrills. Dan Savage, gay 'married' and sex columnist, makes my point precisely. He wants us to follow his example of an 'open marriage' where we spice things up with fresh partners. Fallen guy stuff squared, without the feminine antidote. . . . . .

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