Monday, September 1, 2014

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Sunday, August 31, 2014

Early bird registration extended to Sept. 10!

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Early bird registration extended to Sept. 10!

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Saturday, August 30, 2014

Fox News – and CNN, ESPN, CBS & NBC – Sponsor and Recruit at Biased ‘Gay Journalists’ (NLGJA) Convention » Americans for Truth

Fox News – and CNN, ESPN, CBS & NBC – Sponsor and Recruit at Biased 'Gay Journalists' (NLGJA) Convention » Americans for Truth

Fox News – and CNN, ESPN, CBS & NBC – Sponsor and Recruit at Biased 'Gay Journalists' (NLGJA) Convention

AFTAH exclusive: FOX, CNN, NBC, CBS, ESPN fund conference where mainstream journalists heard highly partisan, pro-"gay" presentations

Fox News recruiting table at  homosexual journalists (NLGJA) convention.

Recruiting Homosexual Journalists: Fox News' recruiting table at homosexual journalists (NLGJA) convention, at the Palmer House Hilton Hotel in Chicago. The event featured one-sided presentations by speakers in favor of "gay rights," with no countervailing advocates of traditional morality. To read Peter LaBarbera's in-depth 2013 report for America's Survival, Inc., on the NLGJA's long record of advocacy and Fox News' emerging pro-"gay" bias, go HERE. Click on photos to enlarge. Credit:


By Peter LaBarbera

CHICAGO–As it has year after year, Fox News Channel served as a major sponsor of the National Lesbian and Gay Journalist Association (NLGJA), providing a $10,000 grant for its 2014 annual convention, which recently concluded here (August 21-24). The conservative-leaning network also recruited at the homosexual journalists event.

Fox signed on as a "Feature Sponsor" for the convention–which included several one-sided presentations in favor of homosexual and transgender activist goals, and zero speakers advocating against LGBT goals such as the legalization of same-sex "marriage." I attended a day and a half of the three-day conference, which was held at the swank Palmer House Hilton hotel in the downtown Loop. As in the past, NLGJA organizers allowed me (a critic, and not a homosexual journalist) to attend, but only after paying a "non-member" registration fee ($330/day).

Other media and corporate sponsors of the event included: CNN; CBS; ESPN; Comcast-NBC; Bloomberg; Gannett; Coca-Cola (the largest sponsor at $25,000); JetBlue airlines; Eli Lilly & Co.; Toyota; Nissan and the homosexual lobby organization Human Rights Campaign.

A natural bias?

Proud 'Gay' Christianity? Openly homosexual Lutheran (ELCA) Bishop Rev. Dr. Guy Erwin (far left) and former Episcopal Bishop V. Gene Robinson (second from right) pose for photo following their presentation at the NLGJA convention. Robinson, who gained international fame as the first openly homosexual bishop of a major Christian denomination, criticized Christians who do not wish to participate in homosexual "weddings." Robinson said there is something "profane and sacrilegious" about "religious people arguing for the right to discriminate." No opposing orthodox Christian viewpoint was included on the panel.

Proud 'Gay' Christianity? Openly homosexual Lutheran (ELCA) Bishop Rev. Dr. Guy Erwin (far left) and former Episcopal Bishop V. Gene Robinson (second from right) pose for photos following their joint presentation at the NLGJA convention. Robinson, who gained international fame as the first openly homosexual bishop of a major Christian denomination, criticized Christians who do not wish to participate in homosexual "weddings." He said there is something "profane and sacrilegious" about "religious people arguing for the right to discriminate." No opposing orthodox Christian viewpoint was included on the homosexual journalists association panel.

What I found at the Chicago conference is what I have observed at every other NLGJA convention I have attended in the last two decades: the natural bias that one would expect from an organization whose members view homosexuality personally and mainly through a "civil rights" prism.

The prevailing viewpoint at the conference–surely shared by most secular media professionals these days–is that "gay, lesbian and transgender" journalists are a legitimate sexual (or gender) "minority," not unlike racial and ethnic minorities, deserving solicitous attention in newsrooms. That would include allowing LGBT journalists to guide coverage on homosexual-bisexual-transgender stories in culture and politics.

Even the NLGJA panel on religion and "gay rights" was bereft of a traditionalist perspective, while the two openly homosexual speakers—former Episcopal Church bishop V. [Vicky] Gene Robinson and new Evangelical Lutheran Church in America (ECLA) Bishop Rev. Doctor Guy Erwin—were heralded in the program as leaders of "this next wave of the civil rights movement."

Both Revs. Robinson and Erwin compared opposition to homosexuality and Christian businessmen's principled refusal to participate in "gay weddings" to racist bigotry (see below).

Perhaps it is asking too much of "mainstream" journalists who consider homosexuality part of their intrinsic identity ("who they are") to cover LGBT-related issues impartially. Nevertheless, intellectual diversity and 'opposing' viewpoint inclusion—the watchwords of this conference and pro-LGBT advocacy in general—were in short supply at the NLGJA convention. That is a peculiar and glaring deficit for a profession that ideally is supposed to cover "both sides" of controversial issues.

To quote the famous Fox News' slogan: the NLGJA religious panel was hardly "Fair and Balanced" regarding the controversial question of (pro-) "gay Christianity": who could argue that openly homosexual bishops advocating for rights based on homosexuality is not a divisive issue?

Note that as opposed to the attendees working in "mainstream" (non-LGBT) media corporations like NPR and CBC, many NLGJA members work in LGBT media, like the Windy City Times for Chicago-area homosexuals–from whom is expected a lower standard of objectivity.

[To read more on the NLGJA's record of advocacy, FOX News' financing of the NLGJA and the network's escalating pro-homosexual coverage, see the PDF of my 2013 in-depth report for America's Survival, Inc: "Unfair, Unbalanced & Afraid: Fox News' Growing Pro-Homosexual Bias & the NLGJA."]

The NLGJA convention also included professional workshops that were unrelated to the homosexual debate—e.g., a panel on the economy and the 2014 election led by even-keeled NPR business editor Marilyn Geewax—and others geared to improving participants' journalism skills.

NLGJA program lists major sponsors for the conference. Click to enlarge.

NLGJA program lists major sponsors for the conference. Click to enlarge.

As you can see, Fox News was hardly alone as a major media sponsor of the NLGJA and its "Breaking Barriers" convention. The following are media corporate sponsors and their donations to the NLGJA [see the group's sponsorship levels HERE]:

  • Fox News Channel – $10,000
  • CNN - $10,000
  • ESPN – $10,000
  • CBS News – $5,000
  • Comcast -NBC Universal – $5,000
  • Gannett – $5,000
  • Bloomberg – $5,000
  • Crain Communications Inc. – $5,000
  • Cox Media Group – $2,500
  • The McClatchy Co. – $2,500

The following were the non-media corporate sponsors of the NLGJA convention:

  • Coca-Cola Company – $25,000
  • JetBlue – $20,000 
  • Eli Lilly and Company – $15,000
  • Nissan – $15,000
  • Prudential – $15,000
  • Toyota – $15,000
  • Stolichnaya – $15,000
  • Chevrolet – $10,000
  • Human Rights Campaign (world's leading homosexual activist organization) – $5,000
  • Astellas – $5,000
  • SAG [Screen Actors Guild] -AFTRA – $5,000

Lastly, the following Journalism schools and foundations were listed as NLGJA sponsors:

  • Knight Foundation – $10,000
  • McCormick Foundation Journalism Program – $5,000

AFTAH will delve more deeply into the NLGJA conference, but the following are some examples of pro-homosexual advocacy and anti-Christian/anti-conservative bias at the event and demonstrated by its presenters:

Religious panel – no attempt at balance:

CNN Kicks in $10,000: Like Fox News Channel, CNN gave $10,000 to the

CNN Kicks in $10,000: Like Fox News Channel, CNN gave $10,000 to the "gay" journalists group. This is an ad in the NLGJA convention program. It reads: "CNN Proudly Supports the National Lesbian & Gay Journalists Association." Click to enlarge.

The following is the NLGJA convention brochure's tendentious, pro-LGBT description of the Saturday panel on religion and "gay rights":

"The church and other religious groups were an essential organizing force when it came to the civil rights movement of the 1950s and 60s, yet they have not been as helpful when it has come to LGBT civil rights efforts. Now, as LGBT equality has become more accepted by the mainstream, more churches and synagogues are on board. While there are still strong hold-outs when it comes to equality and inclusiveness, more religious groups are helping to shape this next wave of a civil rights movement."

On the panel, Rev. Robinson, who gained international fame a decade ago as the first openly homosexual bishop of a major Christian denomination (Episcopalians), criticized Christian small businessmen who refuse to participate in homosexual "weddings" on the basis of their religious liberty. He said there is something "profane and sacrilegious" about "religious people arguing for the right to discriminate."

Robinson compared discrimination based on homosexuality and "gay marriage"–e.g., Christian wedding cake bakers refusing to bake a wedding cake for homosexuals–to past racism: "This is a very slippery slope and we've been there before." He said such religious-based refusals constitute an "overblown understanding of religious liberty" and are an extension of invidious discrimination against black Americans, like saying, "I don't want to serve you at a lunch counter because you're African-American."

Rev. Doctor Guy Erwin, bishop of the Southwest California Synod of the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America, echoed Robinson's concerns, saying with regard to Christian non-participation in homosexual "weddings": "I see this as an assault on pluralism." He said it "goes against the law of Christianity," as a manifestation of not loving one's neighbor as commanded by Jesus Christ in Scripture.

What might have been a lively debate between the Christian Left and a more orthodox perspective on religious liberty and the outworking of Christian faith in the culture did not occur, as there was no forceful defender of the latter worldview on the panel. Moreover, none of the assembled journalists pressed Robinson or Erwin on their comments, which took a very dim view of Christian citizens asserting their freedom under the First Amendment not to participate in homosexual "weddings," based on their belief that homosexual behavior is sinful and that marriage as ordained by God is an institution solely between one man and one woman.

[To read more on the NLGJA's record of advocacy, FOX News' financing of the NLGJA and the network's escalating pro-homosexual coverage, see the PDF of my 2013 in-depth report for America's Survival, Inc: "Unfair, Unbalanced & Afraid: Fox News' Growing Pro-Homosexual Bias & the NLGJA."]

NEXT ARTICLE: More examples of "advocacy" journalism and anti-social-conservative bias at the NLGJA convention.

This article was posted on Friday, August 29th, 2014 at 1:27 pm and is filed under "Civil Unions" & "Gay Marriage", "Civil Unions" & "Gay Marriage", "Gay" Subversion of Institutions, "Sexual Orientation"/"Gender Identity" and the Law, News, NLGJA, The Bible, Churches, & Homosexuality. You can follow any updates to this article through the RSS 2.0 feed.

FRC Blog » Critics of Natural Marriage Remain in Search of Legal Rationale in 7th Circuit Arguments

FRC Blog » Critics of Natural Marriage Remain in Search of Legal Rationale in 7th Circuit Arguments

Critics of Natural Marriage Remain in Search of Legal Rationale in 7th Circuit Arguments

"I regard it as absurd, you say it's self-evident."

That caustic remark — one of many — from Judge Richard Posner, during the August 26 oral arguments regarding Indiana and Wisconsin marriage laws, perhaps encapsulated the gulf between those seeking to retain the natural definition of marriage as the union of a man and a woman and those seeking to redefine it for the purpose of affirming homosexual relationships.

Posner, a 75-year-old Reagan appointee, directed his quip at Indiana Solicitor General Thomas Fisher, who was defending his state's law defining marriage as the union of one man and one woman before the 7th U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals in a set of cases under the heading Baskin v. Bogan. The court also heard arguments regarding Wisconsin's marriage amendment in the case of Wolf v. Walker. District courts in both cases ruled the state marriage laws unconstitutional earlier this year. (Oral arguments in the cases can be heard online at the links above.)

Mr. Fisher was right. The case for defining marriage as the union of a man and a woman is (or at least should be) self-evident. It is self-evident that opposite-sex and same-sex sexual relationships are not the same — the former can result in natural procreation, and the latter never can. That fact, in turn, makes it self-evident that society has a greater interest in both encouraging and regulating opposite-sex relationships (which it does through the institution of marriage) than same-sex ones.

Thursday, August 28, 2014

Ex-Gay Therapy Debate: The Truth Matters

Ex-Gay Therapy Debate: The Truth Matters

Ex-Gay Therapy Debate: The Truth Matters

August 27, 2014|5:48 pm

  • Peter Sprigg
    Peter Sprigg is a senior fellow at the Family Research Council.

The fact that some people change their sexual orientation from homosexual to heterosexual (some as a result of professional therapy) is a problem for the homosexual movement. It seriously undermines the myth that homosexuality is a characteristic like race, which people are born with and can never change.

Homosexual activists have attacked the ex-gay movement, using legislation to outlaw "sexual orientation change efforts" (or "SOCE") with minors by licensed mental health providers. Such bills have passed in California and New Jersey, but have died or remain pending in several other jurisdictions—including the District of Columbia.

Most "sexual reorientation therapy" today consists of "talk therapy"—a client simply talking with a counselor about his or her feelings, experiences, relationships with parents and peers, etc. Some therapists add other positive techniques that have been validated in a variety of contexts—not just SOCE.

However, to generate opposition to SOCE, its opponents have reached back decades to techniques some therapists once used called "aversion therapy"—attempting to associate homosexual feelings with some sort of negative stimuli. No one has been able to identify a single therapist actually practicing today who uses "aversive" techniques in SOCE—but that hasn't stopped homosexual activists from pretending that they do.

In a hearing before the New Jersey legislature, one witness was a young male-to-female transgender who goes by the name Brielle Goldani. Christopher Doyle, an ex-gay therapist, described Goldani's testimony, and his efforts to verify it:


"Twice a week I was hooked up to electrodes on my hands," she said. "I, a child, was shocked repeatedly by people who had my parent's permission to torture me."

 . . . Goldani claims that an Assemblies of God Church in Columbus, Ohio, ran the True Directions conversion therapy camp:

"We were forced to masturbate to heterosexual images and soft-core pornography . . . . Twice a week, my hands were hooked up to electrodes for two hours at a time while we were shown positive images such as a nuclear family . . . . I was also subjected to forced IV injections twice a week for two hours each while being made to watch negative images . . . . The injections made me vomit uncontrollably."

However, the Assemblies of God in Ohio denied that any such camp or program existed. The state government of Ohio could find no record of a camp named "True Directions." Goldani's former pastor scoffed at the claim that the church had paid for Goldani to go to the camp.

Doyle found one reference to a "gay conversion camp" called "True Directions," though—in a fictional 1999 movie called But I'm a Cheerleader, which starred drag queen RuPaul. A logical conclusion is that Goldani took the plot of this far-fetched film, and tried to pass it off as his/her own life story.

Another eerily similar—and equally dubious—horror story is still in use. One witness at a recent hearing on DC's proposed therapy ban, "gay identified" psychologist Dr. Gregory Jones, included this quote from a recent article on the SOCE bans that appeared on Time's website:

Sam Brinton says that his father first tried physical abuse to rid his young son of homosexual feelings. When that didn't work, Brinton's parents turned to something called reparative therapy. Some of the memories are hazy more than 10 years later, but Brinton does remember . . . there was aversion therapy, during which pictures of men touching men would be accompanied by the application of heat or ice. "It was pretty much mental torture," Brinton says.

Earlier, two pieces about SOCE appeared in Politico. One included this:

One former patient described his course of electroconvulsive therapy, in use today, as "The Month of Hell." The treatment, he told the Huffington Post, "consisted of tiny needles being stuck into my fingers and then pictures of explicit acts between men would be shown and I'd be electrocuted."

This also refers to Brinton, who was quoted three years ago in The Huffington Post:

I would be strapped down with blocks of ice or heating pads placed on my hands while pictures of men holding hands were shown. The conversion ended when I told my parents I was straight to stop the electrocution by needles in my fingers while gay sex acts where shown to me.

Some pro-"gay" media tried to verify this report—and couldn't. Even Wayne Besen, the most rabid "anti-ex-gay" activist, declared, "[U]ntil he [Brinton] provides more information to verify his experience, he makes it impossible for us to use him as an example. Indeed, it would be grossly irresponsible for us to do so."

Yet what Besen called "grossly irresponsible" (using Brinton's implausible story as an example), some opponents of therapy freedom (and their allies in the media) are perfectly willing to do.

It's easy to make false statements, baseless and unverifiable, to denigrate your opponent and sway hearts and minds. An understanding of what really happens in therapy is needed for individuals to understand their options and for legislators to vote wisely.

Peter Sprigg is a senior fellow at the Family Research Council.

McDermott Delivers Decisive Blow to 'Pono Choices' Sex Ed Program - Christian Newswire

McDermott Delivers Decisive Blow to 'Pono Choices' Sex Ed Program - Christian Newswire

McDermott Delivers Decisive Blow to 'Pono Choices' Sex Ed Program - Christian Newswire

Contact: Bob McDermott, 808-371-4605

HONOLULU, June 12, 2014 /Christian Newswire/ -- Hawaii's Department of Education has pulled its controversial sex education curriculum entitled 'Pono Choices' from public schools. Some critics had labeled it an attempt at gay indoctrination directed at eleven-year-olds.

When it comes to writing the game plan for resisting unwanted political incursions into schools; Ohana Policy Group President and Hawaii State Representative Bob McDermott has developed a winning formula.

"We don't get into debates about morality or religious conviction; we go after medical inaccuracy and misrepresentation of facts," said McDermott.

McDermott said that the involvement of parents of school-age children drove the DOE to make changes and retreat from what he has labeled "social engineering."

"This is a return of parental empowerment," said McDermott. "State government should have never been competing for control of children's moral development, or their version of it."

In addition to what McDermott calls promoting homosexual lifestyles, he also listed specific inaccuracies and omissions that he wanted the DOE's review committee to specifically address. In their recent report they retreated from several assertions present in the Pono Choices curriculum.

  1. The anus will no longer be defined as a genital. Although it took them almost 8 months, with some committee members arguing against, they have stated that according to all medical definitions they studied there was no support for such an obvious misrepresentation.
    "Finally, biology has trumped social philosophy," said McDermott.
  2. They acknowledged elevated risk of disease from anal sex.

    "You can't deliberately replace actual disease statistics, and real facts about safe sex with political correctness," added McDermott. "Ironically, in their desire to 'normalize' homosexual lifestyles, they put those very students at risk by withholding these critical facts."
  3. Making the program a parental opt-in will increase transparency of materials and processes surrounding sensitive curriculum. The DOE acknowledged that the parental disclosure process was flawed and incomplete, and stacked deck against informed decisions by parents.
    "The acknowledgement that these programs were not fully disclosed, and should have been opt-in all along is perhaps the biggest win for our families," said McDermott.

About the Ohana Policy Group
The Oahu Policy Group is an independent 501c non-profit organization that funds the research and documentation of questionable government policies. Hawaii serves as an early warning sentinel for progressive assaults on our constitutional rights, infringement of our religious liberties and politicization of our public schools. Ohana Policy Group Website.

Wednesday, August 27, 2014

Will the Church Show Justice and Mercy to the Same-Sex Attracted?

Will the Church Show Justice and Mercy to the Same-Sex Attracted?

A Clarion Call for Genuine Salvation and Biblical Hope; Not Compromise!

Church Leaders, Please Truly Love the Same-Sex Attracted Person

"He has shown you, O man, what is good; and what does the LORD require of you but to do justly, to love mercy, and to walk humbly with your God?" Micah 6:8.


God commands us to love one another, yet only through the divine influence of the Holy Spirit living in us and moving us to love as the Lord Jesus Christ loves are we able to fulfill that command and walk out love.  The Holy Spirit creates this kind of love within God's diligent surrendered repentant people, enabling them to walk out true love without denying true justice.  Only in His love can we avoid the great compromise of our age.

God is looking all over the Earth to find a people whose hearts are completely His to pour out His love and mercy. (2 Chron. 16:9)  As God pours out His love and mercy on people whose hearts are completely His, this love manifests in Spirit-filled believers who, by striving to embrace a lifestyle without compromise for themselves, are then free to love others fully, yet without compromising the holy justice our Lord requires.  As His divine influence works in us, we are able to walk out a Heaven-birthed love that reflects the real grace of God.  Lest we forget, God gives His grace to the humble (James 4:6), not to the proud or compromising.  His grace, and therefore His power, is given to those who put their faith in Christ alone. (Eph. 2:8-9).

How do we walk humbly? The Lord showed us how in the example of His own life as he truly and justly and consistently loved people with His great mercy.  It is proven that only this long-suffering love, lived out through discipleship care and inner-healing ministry can bring real transformation for people seeking to be free from homosexuality.  A distorted and compromising love being embraced by many Church leaders across America will not bring freedom. Some leaders may believe it is kind and loving to empower the idea of "gay Christians" or to proclaim "same-sex attracted" or "gay" as legitimate titles, labels and identities, but they are separating justice and mercy from love.  This is tragic.  Encouraging people to embrace a distorted image is not loving and is certainly not just.  It is actually unloving, spiritually wounding, and could eventually be eternally harmful to souls.  (Rom. 1:18-28, 1 Cor. 6:9-11, Gal. 5:19-21, Eph. 5:5-6, 2 Thess. 2:10-12).  

Same-Sex Attraction:  Temptation, Lust or an Identity?

"No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape (freedom), that you may be able to bear it."  1 Corinthians 10:13

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The mercies of God in His extravagant grace are deposited into the humble heart.  God gives a way of escape to those tempted; however, He resists the proud. (1 Peter 5:5-10)   Many today in the Church, rather than wrestle with the issue of same-sex temptation and same-sex lust, argue instead that same-sex attraction must be recognized as a legitimate identity. There is no biblical basis for this surrender.

"We are human, but we don't wage war as humans do. We use God's mighty weapons, not worldly weapons, to knock down the strongholds of human reasoning and to destroy false arguments. We destroy every proud obstacle that keeps people from knowing God. We capture their rebellious thoughts and teach them to obey Christ."  2 Cor. 10:3-5.

A loving and just leader will help a person overcome lust by teaching them to take every thought captive.  A discerning and spiritual father will teach spiritual warfare to a same-sex attracted person so he or she can walk in freedom over tormenting temptations.  A Christ-led leader will not embrace temptation as an identity, misleading people in slavery to further sin and lust.  No one in the Body of Christ should have to live a life overwhelmed by attractions that keep lust operating in the soul.  Love empowers the soul to overcome temptation; anything less is evil. Unfortunately, instead of teaching the truth—that same-sex attraction is a condition of the soul as a result of fallen humanity and is typically a result of a distorted and painful history which needs Godly care—many today promote the idea that same-sex attraction is a legitimate identity. This is wrong.

There is a great need for ministry, love and understanding for the homosexual and the person who is attracted to their same-sex. Most same-sex attracted people, with the longing-hearts of broken-souls, become consumed by lust as they deal with a wounded history, trying to repair a broken image.  This attraction and its fulfillment through lust can never be the identity of anyone who is completely surrendered to the Lordship of Jesus Christ.  Still, many well-meaning Church leaders promote the idea that being "gay" or a "gay Christian", or being attracted to one's same-sex is a legitimate 'orientation' and/or an identity based on modern psychology and their own appetites.[1]  This promotes a false-self in fallen humanity as something to be acknowledged as a personality or as a part of the identity. This deceptive teaching promotes distortion in the Church and leads many astray with a false compassion.  Coining new and comforting terms, such as "mixed orientation marriages" and other forms of sexual "orientation" only further strengthen the strongholds in souls.

Gay-activists have browbeaten the Church with words like homophobic, bigoted, intolerant, unloving and unkind, making anyone who desires to be uncompromising in Biblical orthodoxy subject to scrutiny and a demonic pressure to be swayed into a man-pleasing spirit.  After-all, what sincere Christian is willing to wear the unloving labels cast on them by gay activists?  No one!  Reactionary leaders introduce deception, subtly legitimizing same-sex attractions and lust under the ever-growing cheap-grace teachings.  Well-meaning compassionate people are being seduced by false teachings about grace and mercy, thus promoting a distortion of Christianity—the 'kind-license' to sin—which actually makes an allowance for sins of the heart and mind to remain. We should show great compassion to all sexual sinners in the Church, but these cheap-grace teachers align themselves with demons to turn the grace of God into lasciviousness. Some of them even joke outrageously about lasciviousness and mock grace.[2]   "For certain men have crept in unnoticed, who long ago were marked out for this condemnation, ungodly men, who turn the grace of our God into lewdness (lasciviousness) and deny the only Lord God and our Lord Jesus Christ." Jude 1:4  

The Grace of God is Transformational

Flee from sexual lust and fornication for every other sin is committed outside the body, but sexual immorality is a sin against your soul, your identity and body. 1 Cor. 6:18.

spiritual-transformationThe Apostle Paul used the word "flee" for a reason.  Sexual sin is very dangerous and very damaging to the soul and humans should flee as fast as humanly possible.   Teaching acceptance of gay Christianity is equally dangerous.  Gay-Christian advocates teach lies; they are blind and deceptive guides keeping the souls of many in bondage to same-sex lust.[1]  And from these teachers we should flee.   Jesus' way is to submit the soul through faith to His amazing sacrifice on the cross, resulting in righteousness. (Rom. 10:10).  A true faith in God embraces inward holiness of thoughts.  His divine call for salvation is to a new lifestyle of turning (repenting) to Him for the joy of a deep intimate relationship with Christ as Creator.  This requires us to die to all self-promotion of the fallen Adamic nature of the flesh (orientations) and its desires, which includes same-sex attraction, homosexuality and all forms of sexual sin and brokenness.  The grace of God is transformational.[3] He always makes a way of escape from temptation for those who are completely His.  This is a very good test to see if in fact you are truly born again: do you desire to live purely in your thought life every day? Do you desire transformation?  

We Are Created in the Image of God—Imago Dei!


As I have oft-written, we are created in the image of God—Imago Dei! Using a "sexual orientation" for a person's identity—such as "same-sex attracted" or "homosexual"—indicates viability for behavior outside of God's original intent for human sexuality.  I have never agreed with the notion that "sexual orientation"—our sexual direction or desires—is equivalent to how we are sexually created to be. Using terms like "sexual orientation" and "mixed orientation marriages" communicates a distorted truth based solely on human attractions and feelings, not on God's creation and intent. Modern psychology has provided these terms. The only intent for human sexuality or orientation is from God.  That is "heterosexuality," a term also given to us by modern psychology. What we call heterosexuality, God calls holy relating between one man and one woman in a covenant marriage relationship with the potential to create life in His image through human sexual intercourse.  God calls this relationship holy—two becoming one—a holy relationship that can be only between one man and one woman. We are never more like God in His creativity as humans than when we are in concert with God in creating life.

One cannot create life through homosexuality. We are most like God in His creation when as 'heterosexual' married couples, we produce children, also created in God's image (Imago Dei). All other "orientations" are, at the very least, distorted emotional wounds from psychological (soulish) problems with accompanying desires.  Modern psychology, at its very worst, gives us "sexual orientation" as a way to legitimize sinful behavior.  Under this diabolical plot, the "orientation" message can culminate with the potential for mutilation of the body as we see in gender-reassignment surgery. This evil is very deceptive and tormenting for people. 

Humans are created male and female. Heterosexuality is an innate created biological fact and therefore cannot change. It is simple biology 101, and an orientation idea given to us by modern psychology does not change the truth that we are created human beings, male and female at every level (Imago Dei).  Being human and under the curse of original sin, however, we are able to have distorted attractions and very sinful behaviors.  Humanity is fallen and, as fallen human beings, the orientation we have is a "sinful orientation," not a "sexual orientation."  Very simply, homosexual behavior and other"sexual orientations"outside of God's divine intent for human sexuality are sinful. However, there is hope! Jesus Christ came into the world to save us from all our distorted thinking. He gave us the Word of God, so our minds could be renewed by His Spirit and so transformation can occur to the surrendered soul.[3] The Holy Spirit abides in those who put their faith and trust in Jesus Christ as Savior and Lord.  Isn't it good news to know we do not have to be defined by modern psychology or our feelings, attractions, appetites or lust?  We are defined by the Creator, Who created us in His image, to be like Him in a holy identity as man and woman; and we are created as His children.  Yes! In fact, one can "change" from a 'homosexual' existence and live a holy and healthy life created in the image of God as 'heterosexual' men and women.  Imago Dei!  

Realigning with the Words of Jesus Christ and the Holy Scriptures


The Church is in need of a great revival.  A revival to give justice and mercy to the same-sex-attracted person and all sexual sinners. A revival where souls are truly transformed! We must base our message upon the sound words of the Lord Jesus Christ in giving a genuine message of salvation, a gospel message that conforms the soul to godliness.  The new ideas of outreach coming from Church leaders are heartbreaking.  They use the methodology of the world, through cute slogans and clever sayings to convince same-sex-attracted people they are invited and welcomed, offering no help in redemption, thus allowing the Church to become an unholy place without change.  They proclaim a message of grace where repentance is not 'really' necessary, where you merely pray a prayer and have your ticket punched for Heaven.  This is not the Gospel of Jesus Christ.

"If anyone teaches otherwise and does not consent to wholesome words, even the words of our Lord Jesus Christ, and to the doctrine which accords with godliness he is proud, knowing nothing, but is obsessed with disputes and arguments over words, from which come envy, strife, reviling, evil suspicions, useless wranglings of men of corrupt minds and destitute of the truth, who suppose that godliness is a means of gain. From such withdraw yourself."  1 Tim. 6:3-5. Jesus said, "Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning 'made them male and female'" – Jesus also said, "from the beginning it has always been this way." (See Matthew 19:1-10).

There is a better way, expressed through the very words of Christ in Matthew's gospel account, and on The Sermon on the Mount. His words are very clear about confronting the motivations of the heart, especially in regard to sexual attraction and lust.  The clarion call from our Savior is to present the beautiful truths of the Gospel for a genuine salvation and a Biblical hope that brings transformation in these last days.  His grace is transformative, not leaving people with an out-of-control lust for their identity. If we compromise these truths, we do an injustice to the very people we say we want to help. Don't fall into the psychological trap of placing the labels of fallen humanity onto people concerning their sexuality. It is not mercy, justice or love!

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We should at least embrace an intercession of sincere love with great sorrow and tears as the Apostle Paul told the church in Rome.  Read his words: "I tell the truth in Christ, I am not lying, my conscience also bearing me witness in the Holy Spirit, that I have great sorrow, weeping and continual grief in my heart. For I could wish that I myself were accursed from Christ for my brethren, my countrymenaccording to the flesh…"  Yet the Apostle Paul's love—so profound—is willing to be accursed from Christ; willing to go to hell so others would be saved!  Most in the Church are not weeping and praying, never mind being willing to be accursed from Christ on behalf of another's potential for salvation. Rather, they are too afraid to call out how destructive homosexuality is to our society.

A clarion call and warning from the Lord concerning this day is found in Jeremiah 6:14-15 – "The Shepherds (Church leaders) have healed the hurt (deep wounding) of My people slightly, saying, 'Peace, peace!' When there is no peace. Were they ashamed when they had committed abominations (homosexuality)? No! They were not at all ashamed; nor did they know how to blush (blush or show shame over abominations or sexual sins). Therefore they shall fall among those who fall; at the time I punish them, they shall be cast down,' says the LORD.  Thus says the LORD: 'Stand in the ways and see, and ask for the old paths, where the good way is, and walk in it; then you will find rest for your souls.' But they said, 'We will not walk in it.'"

Beware of believing that the old ways of preaching the Gospel are not relevant. You may find yourself as a false shepherd, not really calling for holy repentance and a sincere healing of your own soul or the soul of the person who struggles with same-sex attraction or homosexuality.  The Lord requires that we do justly, love mercy, and to walk humbly with Him in bringing souls sincerely to Christ in complete abandonment.  "No greater love than this, for a man to lay down his own life for his friends." John 15:13.  In this, is true justice, love, mercy and a humble walk.

written by Stephen Black, Executive Director -- First Stone Ministries, Oklahoma City, OK --  

Adam Hamilton, Alan Chambers, Tony Jones, Wesley Hill, Justin Lee, Matthew Vines, Andrew Marin, Brian  McLaren, Tony & Peggy Campolo, Mel White, Rob Bell, Jay Bakker, Ray Boltz, Gene Robinson and many others.

Clark Whitten, Chairman of the Board of Exodus International's teaching on 'Grace' at the National Exodus Freedom Conference, July 15, 2008. (EXODUS08-D)

Transformation of Persons with Same-Sex Attraction: Becoming Who We Are