Sunday, June 3, 2012

Ex-Gay Tyler Perry talks about sexual confusion

Video from Oprah show: 200 male survivors of sexual abuse

Here's a link to a full episode of Oprah Winfrey in which 200 men were interviewed who had been sexually abused as children. It's well done, and I think anyone can benefit from viewing it.  The video runs for 40 minutes.

Denial of Care to Boys and Men Who Have Been Raped



The Denial of Care to Boys and Men Who Have Been Raped


Author:   A JONAH participant as told to Elaine Silodor Berk, Co-Director of JONAH 


(Posted April 2012)


I think it's time for our society to focus on the effect that rape has in boys/adolescents/men. There was a January 2012 New York Times Article ( Men Struggle for Rape Awareness by Roni Caryn Rabin ) which tangentially references that homosexual rape often leads to men questioning their sexual orientation. To a point yes, but that begs the question of what is the connection, what happens to these victims so that they begin to question their sexual orientation.


Moreover, I don't believe the description of that consequence is accurate in many cases. If the victim of a homosexual rape had just as many heterosexual thoughts and feelings after the rape as he had before, the rape probably wouldn't cause him to doubt his sexual orientation to a great extent.  


However, what does often happen is that a male victim of homosexual rape does have homosexual thoughts and feelings afterwards, or starts to have them. As difficult as it is to speak about this issue, and even unpleasant, it is important to discuss the specifics to be clear about the dynamics of the psychological harm, how to help the victims as effectively as possible, and what else we can learn from these patterns that often arise. I think it is somewhat intuitive that if a person is traumatically victimized in a certain way, and if then he is unable to deal with the feelings and thoughts of being made to feel powerless, personally and violently invaded, taken over, and in the case of a man who is raped, to be made the passive gender rather than the active gender he has worked on establishing, in such a case he may take on the perspective of himself that fits with what he subconsciously believes is the perspective of the aggressor.  After the traumatic incident, too often the victim does not feel able to deal with, or counter, these same-sex attractions.


Similar experiences occur with many victims of abuse, harm, kidnapping, etc.: people begin to identify with, as far as their own identity is concerned, the view of themselves from the assumed perspective of the person who harmed or controlled them. Think "Stockholm Syndrome."


For a boy or man that then deeply feels and thinks of himself in this way - powerless, weak, overwhelmed, sexually passive - this actually can interfere with his sexual attractions to women. In one regard, he does not feel strong enough as a male, so it feels too scary for him to be attracted to women. Then normal sexual feelings can get transferred onto men, in conjunction with having been subjected to an incredibly traumatic experience in which he was forced to connect with another male sexually.


Here is the important point I am trying to make: boys, adolescents, and men who have been molested or raped frequently end up with their healthy heterosexual thoughts and feelings being disrupted, and too often are left with homosexual thoughts and feelings. It is not, as the New York Times article seems to imply, that they just "question" their orientation - in what would seem an almost intellectual sense - absent these feelings and thoughts. It is as a result of experiencing the homosexual feelings and thoughts, that they begin to question their sexual orientation.


The significant issue of homosexual rape and sexual abuse, which is only beginning to be noticed by our society, again points out the current situation in which society has precluded to a very large degree the availability of resources to help individuals treat their unwanted homosexual thoughts and feelings. Here are clear cases where homosexual thoughts and feelings can be traced to severe trauma, and yet the psychological organizations, abetted by the press, have thrown up one road block after another to reduce the availability of assistance. 


Thus, denial of care to male victims of rape and abuse, and the current dishonesty surrounding this issue, is a vicious and tragic mistake.


As a non-profit organization, JONAH strives to help others through the generosity of its supporters, officers and members.


Be wary of the American Psychiatric Association


Be wary of the American Psychiatric Association

By Dr. Keith Ablow

Published May 14, 2012

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The American Psychiatric Association (from which I resigned in protest, some time ago) is at it again—making up, then retracting, new diagnoses that their committees generate and debate.  It's as if those committees have some sort of microscope trained on humanity, identifying new pathologies and yelling, "Voila!  We have found another illness!  Behold the mind malady on the slide!"

In this case, while preparing to publish its big seller (and huge profit center), the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders V (DSM-V)—organized psychiatry's compendium of known psychiatric illnesses—the powers that be at the APA have decided to remove from its latest revision of the manual a few diagnoses they thought they would include:  "attenuated psychosis syndrome" and "mixed anxiety depressive disorder." They are, however, sticking with their notion of jettisoning from the DSM-V, the diagnosis of Asperger's Syndrome, while picking up one they call, "Autism Spectrum Disorder."

This would be really funny, if it weren't really dangerous.  The DSM-V will be used by hundreds of thousands of clinicians who may think that they are understanding their patients better, or treating them more expertly, by labeling them with one of 300 or so disorders listed in it, then matching medications to those supposedly genuine labels.  But those labels aren't driven just by science, but by political, economic and commercial forces within the American Psychiatric Association that may have nothing to do with the wellbeing of patients – or with reality.  

The labels in the DSM-V (like the Diagnostic and Statistical Manuals that came before it) have really become little more than the roadmap by which psychiatrists chase both insurance reimbursement and applause from special interest groups who lobby—sometimes very effectively—for one diagnosis to be included, or another to be removed.  

See, without a numbered diagnosis—such as number 312.30 Impulse-Control Disorder Not Otherwise Specified or number 307.47 Nightmare Disorder (formerly Dream Anxiety Disorder)—insurance companies won't write a check to social workers, psychologists or psychiatrists who help people who have terrible outbursts or can't sleep.  Without a numbered diagnosis, pharmaceutical companies can't get an FDA indication to use a particular medicine for that diagnosis.  And without a numbered diagnosis, psychiatric wards can't get paid to treat patients who hear voices or see visions or are dependent on heroin.

Never mind that splicing and dicing the range of human experience into a recipe book of contrived illnesses does damage to the miraculous healing power of empathy, which just happens to be psychiatry's birthright.  Never mind that creating a constantly-evolving dictionary of disorders wrenches the wonderful tools of psychotherapy and psychiatric medications into a realm of fiction that can paralyze them—like, for instance, the time that the American Psychiatric Association removed Ego-Dystonic Homosexuality from the DSM, essentially making the case that people who have sexual impulses they themselves dislike and wish to resist need no help at all and are pretty much normal.  Similarly, now, for those with Asperger's Disorder, which no longer exists as a distinct entity because someone on some committee convinced other people on that committee that it just doesn't.  

So, there.  Take two of those, and call me in the morning.

Mind you, this is the same organization purporting to represent American psychiatrists while refusing to say just what percentage of those psychiatrists belong to it.  It is the same organization that has presided over the near decimation of insight-oriented psychotherapy—still far-and-away the best technique, in capable hands, that we have to truly heal those suffering with mental disorders.

We in America face an epidemic of fiction—manipulations of the truth on a scale never before known, fueled by technology and media.  This epidemic threatens to rob us of ourselves—what we truly think and truly feel and truly know as fact.  And this epidemic has clearly infected the American Psychiatric Association, which puts them on the wrong side of Truth, and puts patients at needless risk.

Dr. Keith Ablow is a psychiatrist and member of the Fox News Medical A-Team. Dr. Ablow can be reached at

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Saga of James Kennedy and the Bureau of Labor Statistics


This story originally began years ago, with the revealing of a federal employee who was using the contact information of his federal job for his liberal activist website. Yours truly busted him back then: Click Here

His name is Jim [James] Kennedy. His is employed in a branch of the U.S. Labor Board, as a mathematic statistician (a supervisor) with the Bureau of Labor Statistics. When caught, using the government contact info, he pretty much got a slap on the hand and a "no no no, now don't do that again," and had to remove the contact info from his web site. I don't know, call me silly, but I think he should have lost his job. Had it been a conservative, that person would have been long gone, see ya, out of there, bye bye, fired!

Since he got that severe hand slap, Jim Kennedy has not missed a beat. And he sure has a lot of time on his hands, time during what most of us would see as business hours.

March 11th is not a holiday of any kind, yet Jim Kennedy was posting away on his website, in the middle of the afternoon: Click Here. Some might suggest that he was on a break. Well, if he was, then one would have to tell us how many breaks this man receives, as his website shows numerous posts, during business hours. And how does he get on the internet?

Here's how I see it. Even on break, he would have been using a government internet access. I don't like the idea of my government tax dollars paying for someone to fight his political matters on the internet. Just as his office government phone is not to be used for his political website, neither should the internet connection in that government office be used for such.

Debra J.M. Smith - © 03-16-11


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